In this article, I will show you 7 self-love practices to build up your self-confidence and self-worth in a couple of weeks. We will do some reflection work focussing on your gifts, strengths and weaknesses.
Self-love starts by accepting ourselves first. Embracing who we are right in this moment, even if we don’t like what we see. It’s when we learn to love and accept ourselves completely that our life will change forever and we will be able to unlock the keys to our highest potential.
So what do you need for these practices?
1. Pen and paper
2. A mirror
3. Lots of inner strength.
1. Who are you?
“Who were you before the world told you who you were supposed to be?”
Nowadays we live in a time where money, prestige, and materialism are all people seem to care about. We care more about how people see us, instead of how we see ourselves. And we put so much pressure on ourselves trying to be what other people expect us to be, that we slowly lose our own sense of self in the process.
Most likely, what you show the world today, is not who you truly are inside. It’s a mask. It’s a facade. It’s a character you play to be accepted by the norms of society. But this is not who you truly are…
And this is not what life should be about!
Life should be about staying true to your authentic self, listening to your OWN heart’s desires instead of other people, and following your own unique path. As the universe has granted this life for YOU.
Nobody can tell you who you’re supposed to be unless you give them that much power over you.
So the first thing we have to work on is figuring out who you truly are inside when no one is watching, nourish that person completely, and losing those fears surrounding your thoughts about how people will judge you.
Which is why this first exercise is so important:
Self-love practice #1: Accepting ourselves
To figure out who we are we have to go back to our raw and vulnerable state: our naked skin.
What will happen when you take off all your clothes, makeup, lashes, wig, nails, jewelry, and valuable possessions, leaving you in an empty room with nothing but your own reflection to stare at.
When all external things are taken away from you, what will truly be left of you? Can you look at yourself in the mirror and accept the person you see?
Can you look in the mirror and say: I accept you. I am beautiful and I don’t need external things to prove this.
If the answer is YES then great! You can go to exercise 2. But if you have a hard time saying these things to yourself then I challenge you to go back to your natural state for the next 7 days. This means no make-up, no fake nails, no lashes nor any external things you base your value on. I dare you to show your raw unpolished self to the world and see how people will respond.
Are you capable of doing this?
Because to love yourself, you have to accept yourself first.
2. What do you stand for?
Self-love practice #2: Discovering your core values
Answer the following questions.
1. Describe yourself in 5 words.
2. What are your core values in life?
3. Which quote describes you best?
4. What are traits you look for in friends, family and partners?
5. Do the people in your life possess these traits?
3. Embracing your authenticity
Self-love starts with daring to be yourself. Daring to speak your own truth and not being afraid of what other people might think about you.
There will always be people who disagree with you or dislike you for some reason. And that’s totally fine. You are not made for everyone!
The more you let go of the idea that you need to be everything to everyone, the more you will embrace your true authentic self. It’s truly a liberating feeling when you can be yourself 100% and share your unique gifts with the world.
For a long time, I couldn’t be myself around other people, except with a close group of friends. I was afraid that people would not understand or accept me for who I truly was inside. I was afraid to speak openly about certain topics, such as spirituality, for example.
I had not yet accepted myself.
But since then I challenge myself to show more of who I am through my writing. This is my way to express my authentic self and speaking my truth!
Let me tell you… This is not an easy task embracing your true authentic self. Because this means you can lose some friends or family members who are not willing to accept you for who you are. This is the harsh truth but I don’t want you to feel discouraged by that.
Please don’t let that stop you.
The people that are meant to be in your life and are here for your highest good will always accept you for WHO YOU ARE.
And everyone who cannot accept you for you, will eventually fade and disappear out of your life. It’s better to know now than 10 years down the line.
Keep in mind it’ s just a vibrational thing and this has nothing to do with who you are as a person.
Don’t ever be afraid to lose people… the sooner you show your true self to the world, the sooner you will attract the right people in your life who are here to stay.
Self-love practice #3: discovering your authenticity
Accomplish the following tasks.
1.Find your unique qualities, what makes you different from everyone else?
2.Share something personal about yourself on social media
3.Speak your truth to friends and family
4.Dare to feel your emotions and share how you feel or what you are going through with others.
4. Loving your body
How you appreciate and treat your body, plays a big role in loving yourself more. Your body IS your sacred temple. And you should nourish it and take care of it properly.
A healthy body has nothing to do with how it looks on the outside. It’s about how the body feels on the inside.
Is it provided with the right nutrition, vitamins, and minerals? Does it feel energized and hydrated? Does it get the chance to rest, recharge, and rebuild itself?
Try working on your mental and physical health for the next couple of weeks. Try paying attention to what your body needs and how it feels.
The more you will appreciate your body and what it does for you, the more your self-love will grow.
Self-love practice #4: taking care of your body
Answer the following questions.
1. What are my current diet habits?
2. Can I be healthier with my food choices?
3. What is my body lacking in terms of nutrition?
4. Do I feel energized when I wake up?
5. Do I feel stressed? If so why?
6. Do I get enough sleep?
7. Do I get a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise a day?
8. What lifestyle changes do I have to make to become healthier?
5. Reflecting on strengths and weaknesses
Self-reflection is a big part of developing self-love and finding your authenticity. You have to be able to pinpoint your strengths and weaknesses. Your gifts and your flaws.
Lets start with your gifts.
Recognizing and appreciating your positive traits will help you find your authenticity without a doubt! These are the qualities in which you can excel the more you develop them.
If you find it difficult to name good traits of yourself, you can also ask friends or family to name some good (or weak) traits about you. Astrology is another method you can use to learn to recognize your talents and your downfalls.
And hell yeah, It’s important to be honest about your weaknesses! Because these are traits you need to work on. If we can observe when these flaws or dark traits occur, we can learn to recognize our triggers and slowly convert them to neutral or positive traits within ourselves. Traits can always be transformed.
Being able to recognize your dark qualities in yourself is being able to have an honest conversation with yourself.
Self-love practice #5: pinpointing your strengths and weaknesses
Accomplish the following tasks.
5 good qualities of mine are …
5 talents of mine are …
5 weaknesses of mine are
5 traits I want to work on are …
**Work on these traits for the next couple of weeks.
6. Work with affirmations
Words have so much power. The way you speak to yourself matters.
I am a strong believer in the law of attraction, a concept of Esther and Jerry Hicks which is all about receiving the energy you put out in this world.
Whatever you think or feel about yourself, you become… as we are all energetic beings vibrating on a personal frequency.
And so it is very important how you speak to yourself!
Speaking loving and kind words to yourself will not only boost your self-love but will also have a positive effect on your emotional, mental and physical body.
To learn more about this concept, I recommend you to watch this video where Christine Sheldon explains the correlation between words and frequency levels.
A good way to practice self-love is to start working with affirmations:
These are positive phrases that consist of high frequencies that will transform your negative thought patterns into positive ones.
Self-love practice #6: working with affirmations
Repeat the following affirmations (key phrases) for the next 7 days.
You can do this while meditating or every morning when you’re standing in front of the mirror.
Day 1: I release all negative thoughts I have about myself.
Day 2: I forgive myself for my past mistakes and I forgive others who hurt me.
Day 3: I deserve love and happiness.
Day 4: I am beautiful, I am valuable and I am designed for greatness.
Day 5: I am proud of myself and my accomplishments
Day 6: I believe in my visions and my dreams.
Day 7: I love the person I am becoming
7. Letting go of people or things that harm your wellbeing
This one is important! To love your self is to choose yourself first. Your health and wellbeing should not be compensated for anything or anyone…
You have to be sure that you surround yourself with the right people, places and things that have a positive impact in your life.
You can’t control every circumstance in your life but you can control who and what is part of your life. Take back your power and don’t be afraid to let go of things that simply don’t serve your highest good.
Self-love practice #7: What serves your soul?
Accomplish the following tasks.
1. People that appreciate and love me for who I am are..
2. People who make me feel unworthy and make me feel less about myself are..
3.People with good energy in my life..
4. People who drain my energy are..
5. 5 things that make me happy
6. 5 things that makes me unhappy
You know what you have to do!
Let me know if these self-love practices were helpful to you.
Never forget how valuable you are … 🙂
Lots of love,